Life is a long journey with short
time, often the limited hours which you need to utilize. The direction of the
life is often selected by you and you are the only element which will present
with yourself at the end of the day. So, you are liable to yourself not others.
In our day-to-day life we need something to survive—food, water, air etc. but
we are always forgetting something—humans. We as a society live together in
order to react, respond and enhance thus we rely on each other. This is the
reason why humans are considered as the social animal. We are dependent on
others—Man needs Men to survive, often people judge us based on our behavior,
character, personality but how does you set into their mind, your personality,
your character, your behavior—it’s just the action we do, the reaction we give
and most importantly the communication we do.
So, friends here are some effective
ways of communication which will help you to maintain your relationship
wherever you go:-
1. The thumb rule—Talk about them
Have you observed people who
usually talk about themselves only—you call them self-centered, but sorry
friends this is not the case always. We as a human had the tendency of talking
about ourselves, we like those people who can understand us and believe me it’s
the reptilian brain’s magic. So, here the key for building relationship—Talk
about them to them, but don’t inquire or judge. Talking to them about them is
the best way to establish the base of communication but should be used
carefully, just don’t throw bouncers of questions use some communication cues
while talking to them.
Related: Don't Talk to Your Audience, Talk With Them
2. Mid-humor for relaxing
While we are communicating with
people some people get bored, it is just because lack of humor. So, the best
way is to add humor with communication cues. Catch what the respondent is
telling you and just add some humor in it and see the magic. This is often used
by public speakers to engage the listeners mind and that to by refreshment mint
of words. This step works similar when you do factory reset for your mobile and
it starts working smooth. So, just add humor in the conversation.
3. Make the conversation interactive
When we talk to someone it is mandatory
for us to make the conversation interactive i.e. let the flow of information
and message happens from both side. One side, hoping the message and other side
just catching it will not make the content of the message effective, it will
only signify that either he or she is not interested in talking to you or
he/she is bored or not comfortable. So, to deal with all the situation you need
to enhance your interactive skills because this will enhance listeners mind to
soak and absorb the information for the continuum of conversation.
4. Communication cues
In any verbal conversation or the
communication, the key note to keep the conversation long is done via
communication cues, which nothing but just extracting some key clues from
respondents answer and just dragging it further in the form of reply back. For
example, while talking to your friend he or she said “You know I want to Eminem
concert yesterday? It was awesome” and you said “Oho! Eminem I like him a lot,
but where did it happen? He/she said: “Seriously, you are not aware about it?” than
you said “Yes, I’m not!.” In this way the whole communication is bridging up
and instead of saying directly I’m not aware about the concert, communication cues
strategy will give you the power to keep the conversation long as well as interesting
due to presence of both point of views.
5. Let them ask about you first
I think this is the best way for
anyone to make someone feel relaxed and comfortable in whole conversation because
here respondent will ask about you only and only if he or she had talked about
himself much, often this is used by sales-people to know the customer and
enhance the relationship management. However, the demerit of this and the
reason why I kept this point in last because you can’t be sure when to trigger
the desired point on him or her, this can only be done when he/she get finished
and he/she wants to ask.
Eventually,
you are building up the best rapport and making the conversation more
effective. However, theory is just the part of the book you can only succeed if
you try this in practical.
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